The Candy Jar Paradigm

What would be an useful perspective to look at the good things in your life? Take them as candies from a jar that come and go in your life in a totally random fashion Do not expect them or demand them! It certainly does not work that way! The candy appears by chance and you…

Mistaking Mania For Anxiety

Feeling agitated, restless, with a million thoughts in my head felt like anxiety. The difference is that mania is mainly not a negative feeling. Highly elevated, but glamorous! And the million thoughts fly like moths to a flame, not like panicky future scenarios. Sleep also eludes you, but you feel like you need to do…

Sharing Time versus Spending Time

There’s a a feeling you get when you SHARE time with someone here and now, someone authentic. It feels refreshing, energetic, motivational, it helps you perceive life as it beats; you can see yourself changing and growing; you exist beyond time and space – right there in the moment. You stop running between past and…

Creating Who You Want To Be

Do you remember when you were a kid and you started imagining how you would turn out when you grow up? And since then, you kept making steps towards that: some moves got you closer to that image and some moves further. From time to time your values changed and your ideal self with them.…

Don’t Close The Wound Too Soon

We all feel the need to avoid pain. We want to close the wound as soons as possible so that the discomfort goes away. It’s just that sometimes we close a wound too soon, when it’s not clean enough. There is still damaged tissue left and we close it with residue inside. And we hurry…

Running from Vulnerability

I gave up being strong for a while. It’s an interesting experience to let youself feel vulnerable. I kind of ran away from it before. I didn’t even realize this, but now I think it’s ok to walk with this feeling. By the way, thank you for the storm that never leaves you the way…